Conflict to Collaboration

August 23, 2023 | Jarrod Saxton

Hand turns dice and changes the expression "my fault" to "your fault".

In today’s society, a common piece of advice echoes from all corners:

“You are responsible for your success.”

This mantra is rooted in empowerment but can also be a burden. There’s a subtle implication that, should you stumble or face setbacks, it’s entirely your fault. But after being introduced to the Druid tool, I’ve experienced a profound shift in perspective.

The Druid Tool

When discussing problem-solving methodologies, many tools come across as cold, technical, and impersonal. These strategies often lack the human touch, an element of empathy that resonates with our innate emotional nature.

But then there’s the druid tool. Seemingly paradoxical, it’s a logical tool infused with a dose of empathy. As you get to grips with it, you soon realize that our efforts, our pursuits, and even our setbacks, are all part of a broader system – a self-perpetuating “daily routine.”

This understanding reframes our sense of control. Instead of being the sole masters of our destiny, we’re often responding and reacting to various pressures in our lives. At first glance, this might sound pessimistic. However, I believe it offers an incredibly optimistic and empowering outlook.

Why? Because it also means that everyone else is in the same boat. From the stranger during a traffic jam to the colleague whose work habits challenge our own, everyone is responding to their set of pressures, their own intricate dance of cause and effect.

Shifting the Perspective on Conflict

Traditionally, when faced with conflicts or misunderstandings, we might label these individuals as “bad” or “difficult.” This reflex is part of the ‘attribution bias’—a cognitive shortcut where we attribute behaviors to an individual’s character rather than their circumstances.

But once you’ve acquainted yourself with the druid tool, this bias begins to fade. Instead of seeing character flaws, you recognize that most behaviors are influenced by situations, by a cause and effect beyond our immediate control. This realization isn’t just limited to others; it extends to ourselves, offering solace from self-blame and guilt.

With this tool in my arsenal, I’ve begun to see conflicts differently. Rather than two individuals at odds, I see them as two well-meaning people unwittingly pitted against each other by cause and effect – much like a child making two toys clash in a make-believe battle.

Conflict to Collaboration

But here’s the exciting part: what if, instead of colliding, these individuals collaborated? What if they joined forces against cause and effect, and took on the challenge of understanding and altering the causality behind their actions?

The conversation would shift from “you vs. me” to “you AND me against the problem” and this pivot from conflict to collaboration, forms the heart of the druid tool.

Although logic and critical thinking tool might initially appear detached or impersonal, they truly represent some of the most empathetic pathways towards understanding, fostering cooperation, and crafting practical win-win solutions.

So, if you’ve been too hard on yourself or find certain relationships taxing, it might be time for a fresh perspective. Join us on our next Foundations course, and allow the Druid tool to bring more empathy and peace of mind into your life.”